Creating Meaningful Connections

individual and couple counseling

North St. Paul, MN

Communication + Confidence = Connection

Your relationship could benefit from some TLC.

You’re not connecting with your partner.

You wonder whether you’re even speaking the same language. Attempts to communicate with your partner lately have felt more like doing chores.

Cracks in the foundation of communication have eroded your trust for your partner.

Showing up in your relationship is hard when missteps chip away at your confidence, like you haven’t been able to do anything right.

Your respect for your partner has been balancing on a precipice. You so often feel unheard and unseen lately.

Yet you can remember when communication with your partner felt effortless and without demands.

It felt easy with your person, the one who “got” you more than anyone else ever. You want to be with that person again. You want to be that person for your partner too.

You can still remember when engagement with your partner gave you energy, confidence, and happiness and connected you to them and them to you.

You want that pattern of interaction with your person back. The one that shows confidence, patience, playfulness, security, and understanding. The one that connects you, keeps bringing you back to each other, no matter how crappy your day or how tired you feel. The one where you find each other no matter where you are.

You want that feeling of being in love with your partner again.

Your strengths can help.

Your curiosity is just one of your natural strengths.

You already use it well to show interest and grow in many areas of your life. But you’ve been uncertain about how — or whether — to use this skill in your relationship. That uncertainty has kept you from being a better listener and communicator, from being more open and engaged, from being available to your partner.

Your curiosity is welcomed into your relationship to help you connect.

You can learn how to use your curiosity to create connection with your partner, invite healing into your wounded spaces, and offer new and healthy patterns to your relationship that genuinely reflect your deep and passionate love for and commitment to the person you want with you today and for all your tomorrows.

Getting to connection may seem like it’s a long way away from where you are now.

But it is possible to get there.

Growth, healing, and connection are possible.

There's hope and help.

The therapist you’re looking for is one who will accept you where you are, not leave you alone in the shadows, and guide you to creating new patterns of interaction with your partner while helping you honor and hone your natural strengths.

You want an insightful therapist who's curious like you.

I listen without judgment and use curiosity to invite reflection, compassion, and insight. I challenge with encouragement and understanding.

I look forward to being of help and support to you on your journey of discovery and hope we connect soon.

JoEllen Lange, MA, LAMFT

If you like what you've read so far and are ready for the next step, let's have a conversation.

If you’re ready to start having things be different and feel better, click the button below to schedule your no-obligation 20-minute phone consultation. Else, keep reading to learn more.

Which one fits your current need?

You’re a new couple with great energy. You can likely benefit from having structured conversations about all the different life areas that can affect a relationship. PREPARE is one great way to start.

You’ve been together for a while and you’re no stranger to bumps in the road in your relationship. The bumps never disappear, but they can certainly be less jarring. Couples therapy can help.

You’re ready to make changes but your partner isn’t. And that’s ok. Or, you want to focus on your own growth and development. Therapy for one can make a difference, especially for you.

It is my privilege to be LGBTQ+-affirming and -allied.

my pronouns: she / her / hers

I'm glad you're interested

I’m located on the charming main street of downtown North St. Paul, just west of the highway 36 snowman.

For information on where to find Heritage, see Hours & Location.

2497 7th Ave E, Suite 109
North St. Paul, MN 55109-2949


The information contained in this website is for informational purposes only and is not intended to assess, diagnose, or treat any individual or relationship. It is also not intended to suggest a relationship with the therapist.

Heritage Counseling Services therapist, JoEllen Lange, MA, LAMFT, is a relationship psychotherapist working toward full licensure under supervision of an AAMFT- and Minnesota Board-approved licensed therapist.

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New Location May 1st!

Heritage Counseling Services

is moving from downtown St. Paul to the city of North St. Paul beginning May 1st