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“We don’t communicate”
doesn’t have to be a problem anymore
Here to help you reconnect and be heard, supported, and appreciated in your most intimate relationship
couple & individual therapy in North St. Paul, MN
Bad relationship patterns, assumptions, and unchecked misunderstandings lead to disconnection.
The pain from tension and strain in your relationship can be turned around.
Feeling unwanted, inadequate, and rejected has no place in a solid, healthy relationship.
We deserve to be wanted and loved in a healthy relationship. And healthy relationships are mostly amazing.
Connection
Connections are our lifelines, all day long, every day. Electronics. Machines. Internet. Infrastructure. We really can’t, or don’t, function without them.
In the journey through life, in countless ways, we need connection.
And yet, we can be pretty good at taking for granted the most important connections . . .
Bad relationship patterns, assumptions, and unchecked misunderstandings lead to disconnection.
The pain from tension and strain in your relationship can be turned around.
Feeling unwanted, inadequate, and rejected has no place in a solid, healthy relationship.
We deserve to be wanted and loved in a healthy relationship. And healthy relationships are mostly amazing.
. . . to ourselves
We feel lost, restless, tense, anxious, uncomfortable, or unworthy. And not able or willing to sit with the why of it.
We deny, detach, or avoid. We don’t check in with ourselves, or we’re not honest about it.
We’re untethered, not grounded.
We repeat behaviors that bring only temporary relief. And then the feel-think-behave cycle starts all over.
. . . to our partners
The distance is there. Our partner is far away. We’re far away.
Life feels heavy, hard, and complicated when our connection to our partner is off. There’s little joy.
The move toward our partners to ask for what we need feels uncomfortable, risky, scary, or impossible.
We feel alone and afraid. And then we spin into feeling unwanted, unloved, undeserving.
The journey to connection . . .
There is hope.
With my help, you’ll be able to do amazing work to arrive at acceptance, empathy, understanding, passion, and connection — for yourself and your partner.
We will
• Identify and reshape patterns and interactions
• Create new stories that work with your new meanings and understandings
• Explore and remove blocks to relational and physical intimacy
. . . is paved with growth and healing
Getting to connection may seem like it’s a long way away from where you are now.
But it is possible to get there.
And there's help.
The therapist you’re looking for is one who will accept you where you are, stay with you in the shadows, and guide you to creating new patterns of interaction with yourself or your partner while helping you honor and hone your natural strengths.
I listen without judgment and use curiosity to invite reflection, compassion, and insight. I challenge with encouragement and understanding.
I look forward to being of help and support to you on your journey of discovery and hope we connect soon.
Which one fits your current need?
You’re a new couple with great energy. You can likely benefit from having structured conversations about all the different life areas that can affect a relationship. PREPARE is one great way to start.
You’ve been together for a while and you’re no stranger to bumps in the road in your relationship. The bumps never disappear, but they can certainly be less jarring. Couples therapy can help.
You’re ready to make changes but your partner isn’t. And that’s ok. Or, you want to focus on your own growth and development. Therapy for one can be healing, inspiring, and life-changing.
If you like what you've read so far and are ready for the next step, let's have a conversation.
If you’re ready to start having things be different and feel better, click the button below to schedule your no-obligation 20-minute phone consultation. Else, keep reading to learn more.
It is my privilege to be LGBTQ+-affirming and -allied.
my pronouns: she / her / hers
I'm glad you're interested
I’m located on the charming main street of downtown North St. Paul, just west of the highway 36 snowman.
For information on where to find Heritage, see Hours & Location.
2497 7th Ave E, Suite 109
North St. Paul, MN 55109-2949
Disclaimer
The information contained in this website is for informational purposes only and is not intended to assess, diagnose, or treat any individual or relationship. It is also not intended to suggest a relationship with the therapist.
Heritage Counseling Services therapist, JoEllen Lange, MA, LAMFT, is a relationship psychotherapist working toward full licensure under supervision of an AAMFT- and Minnesota Board-approved licensed therapist.
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