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Something’s gotta give.

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You carry the weight of the world – is often how you feel.

Your family and friends boast about you as the responsible one.

Sometimes ‘being responsible’ is a source of pride for you, but it can come with a heavy side to it too. And then there’s that weight again (sigh, or argh!).

So, people know they can turn to you for help. You’re resourceful and pretty good at getting stuff done – but usually for others.

So, then your own projects suffer. And you’re not taking care of your own stuff.

You often forget to make yourself a priority, and you find yourself last on your own list.

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Putting yourself last may be a symptom of one or both these things.

1You may feel a strong pull toward obligation, being nice, being busy, or living up to others’ expectations.

2’Perfectionism’ has power over  you and some level of fear keeps you from getting your own stuff done.

What if you . . . ?

» Were more intentional about your whys and hows in giving your time and energy to others?

» Honored you and your wants and generously gave time to yourself?

» No longer felt the pull to respond to others’ wants? (which to you felt like demands)

» Created a new relationship with ‘perfect’ or gave it new meaning for you?

» Created and honored your own definition of ‘success’?

Can you imagine that?
How does that feel?

You've been ready to feel more in charge of your life for a while.

Your time is now.

» You’re ready to explore the idea of leaning into breaking your unhelpful patterns in your relationship with yourself and others.

» You understand that accountability is important for change and growth.

» You can appreciate a challenge that can be delivered with warmth, compassion, and sometimes humor.

» You can accept that there might be some sting in first learning where your challenges may lie.

» You’re ready to roll up your sleeves.

I AM

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My core values

Acceptance

Kindness

Compassion

JoEllen sitting, smiling, in jeans

If you're interested, a little more about me.

My past lives have been in banking, banking operations, and software testing.

As I read and listen, I naturally edit – so, I may have had another past life as a copy editor.

‘Not being good enough’ got in my own way of starting grad school (and many other things). So, it turns out, I’m a late bloomer. And that is not a bad thing, but I was hearing otherwise, so it took some effort to make peace with that.

I’ve been married for many years to one of the most loving persons ever. I’m so lucky to call him one of my best friends. We’ve put in a lot of work and keep play in the mix too.

I hope to do woodworking or refinish furniture someday.

I’m compelled to reduce, recycle, and reuse.

I was once told, “You amuse yourself” – yes! Laughter is so good for the body and soul!

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